F. Selection of sexual activities
Another very important factor influencing the degree and type of trauma of a child involved in pedosexual activities is the kind of sexual practices the child is exposed to. Certainly she will keep different impressions from a gentle touching on her thighs than from torture or penetration by a horse vibrator. Logically, a general rule of correlation applies: the more violent, coarser and harsher the practice, the stronger the trauma for the child
. Many so-called sexual practices belong to the field of child sexuality.
Children themselves touch their sexual organs, some masturbate. They show each other in various ways, touch themselves and fool around. They tickle, "torture", clap on buttocks for fun, or even kiss each other. Older-school-age couples in love can slowly begin to practice necking, petting, learn passionate kissing using tongues or even oral practices. If a sexual assault occurs and the child will be exposed to these "soft" practices, it may not be as traumatic as in the case of rape and adult vaginal or anal penetration. A child can be in love with her adult "sexual partner".
There are abundant cases when a little boy is in love with an adult woman. However, there are hopefully not many pedosexual activities between boys and women. There are not many cases when a little boy is in love with a big boy or a man. Rather, many homosexual pedophiles (BL) just imagine that. Homo-pedo-sexual activities will be much more complicated, especially for boys who are not homosexual. The occurrence of sex between a girl and a woman is probably also relatively sparse. But there are such. This is evidenced by many perverse, often arranged, child porn videos. We're left with the most common combination: a little girl with a man
. Such a little girl, she can so romantically and completely fall in love, you would stare...
Some pedosexual activities can be pleasant for her. Some girls may give their first impetus. Or they may give a consent for that. Yet it can mean a sexual abuse of the child. Only the trauma (especially of the first type) will not be as strong as when dealing with an unloved or unknown abuser, or when adult sexual activities are practiced. Exposure of the child's genitalia.
More often in girls than in boys, we encounter some subconscious inner desire to expose their own genitalia - in popular terms - to show a pussy. It's unbelievable what girls can show off with the help of modern technology, especially webcams. In most cases, this is definitely not the case of "poor maneuvered and forced victims"
. And it's not just the behaviour in front of computer. They have always liked to show themselves in reality, among peers or for their dear ones, they almost impose themselves, they are opening the pussy, sometimes masturbating. The indirect internet contact, however, directly appeals to meet this inner need, the degree of shame being lower in this type of communication. This, of course, includes only a minor subset of the total number of girls. Most do not show up like this, and many would not even do it if they had the opportunity. Everything is individual. I mention this as an illustrative example of the fact that many sexual activities are natural to children and they have a tendency towards them. The boys can show up their dicks, often in an erected state. It is also a kind of inner desire for them and looking for new unexpected and exciting experiences. Exposure of one's own genitals can be quite satisfying and exciting for the child. The more shy ones when forced to do so would have a strong trauma. Fondling, touching, soft masturbation, non-invasive kissing.
These soft sexual practices correspond to children's nature, children sometimes perform them joyfully and spontaneously among themselves, they are obvious manifestations of child sexuality, they reflect a healthy psychosexual development of the child. If a girl is involved with an adult on her own initiative and is in love, she may not experience traumatisation (type 1). She can even enjoy those practices and experience sexual arousal or even climax and satisfaction. If, however, she is forced into these noninvasive sexual practices, or perhaps seduced by a person whom she does not love, she can experience trauma comparable to that of a raped adult woman. Rough masturbation, oral sex, adult genital molestation.
These less natural practices of a more invasive type can cause deeper wounds on the soul. If a child who has never been theoretically acquainted with the practice is involved in fellatio or cunnilingus, she is likely to be very shocked by the idea itself. That intended for pissing, in the mouth? Madness.
It is possible that there will be excitement or even climax. But still, the child will probably be quite stressed and traumatized. If she were forced by the adult to stimulate his penis by her hands or her mouth, the trauma would most likely be enormous. An unknown big disgusting smelling penis in the mouth is a real hell for a child. We will express our view on an eventual encounter with ejaculation while discussing the following factor.Forcing child to vaginal or anal coitus, HC and BDSM.
These most hard and most rough adult sexual activities and ways will remain permanent wounds on the soul of every child, perhaps also on her body. These really disgusting and brutal acts are most often performed by non-pedophiles that do not feel love and tenderness to the child, who are often mentally ill or flat and who have the body of child as a substitute sexual object. Simply as "another available warm wet hole"
. I would punish such abusers exceptionally harshly. After the act, most types of traumatisation will appear in the victim, mainly 1.-3., really not 4. (traumatisation by absence of beloved abuser).
We could certainly go through lists of other lists of conceivable and imaginable sexual practices. Particularly at present, humankind is extremely creative and unbridled in this. But I hope it was enough to give an example. At first glance, it is clear that this factor plays an absolutely crucial role in the effect on the child that a pedosexual activity has. Not all activities are alike, some practices differ from other "practices".
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G. Physical manifestations and behaviour of abuser
As a special factor influencing the overall traumatization of the child, we will present here the physical manifestations with which the child encounters during pedosexual activity, as well as the various ways of approach and behaviour of the adult. Just in short, we will outline behaviour respectful to the personality of the child. On the contrary, we will mention approaches and expressions which are very insensitive, unscrupulous and strongly traumatic.A sensitive approach is characterized by the utmost respect, sensitivity and deep empathy towards the child, an effort to meet her wishes and to respect her will.
A significant "advantage" exists for experienced educators, child psychologists and pediatricians, leaders of interest groups, as well as pedophiles who understand the child's soul and usually use intelligent and non-invasive methods of manipulation. In the "ideal" case, these adults are directly forced into pedosexual activities by their "victims". They should be aware that "even if a child wants IT much"
, it is still a sexual "abuse" of a child.On the contrary, insensitive and traumatizing approach is characterized by violent acts, aggressive manipulation, extortion, and threats.
We have written more about it at point D (factor Manipulation, degree of freedom and degree of coercion). The more crude and primitive is the abuser, the lower the whole act is and the resulting overall impression deeper and the more traumatic is the impact on the child.
We will stop at physical manifestations that occur with both actors during pedosexual activity
. When making love, the bodies behave a little differently than in normal working. The child may be surprised
and frightened by her own feelings and unusual features of her body
there is an erection that they of course know but usually connected with positive experiences. They can have erection while it is not wanted. They feel helpless, the inability to get rid of the erection can be frustrating. They are already shy for the nakedness itself, even more for the erection. Not everyone, of course, also here exists individuality in experience. In pubertal boys, the masturbation or felation may also lead to the first outbreak of semen. Those uninformed can be badly surprised - especially due to the circumstances in which this occurs.Girl
may also experience changes in her genitals, and may experience orgasm for the first time during masturbation or cunnilingus, giving her ambivalent feelings
. On the one hand, man deal with her in an incomprehensible way, with an approach she has not yet encountered and about which she had no idea. She can feel very uncomfortable, and she can be shocked and literally stiff, without any ability to resist. On the other hand, she can feel new, sentient bodily feelings they have not yet felt. And now how can the not mature child psyche process it...
In the case of deeper orgasms, she is even more surprised. After such an act, traumatization can also occur by the feeling that she did not have own personal control over her body and feelings[/color]. Similarly to that what happens with older children if they cannot control the excretion need.
Regarding the physical manifestations of the adult
they are usually an aggravating factor. Sweat, flushing in the face and in the genital area, wetting of the vagina or penile erection, deep and audible breathing, sighing, healing, roaring, farts, salivation, etc. have terribly repulsive effect on the little, pure and gentle child
. The worse phenomenon is sperm
itself. If this is only possible, the child should be isolated from that. Watching ejaculation, splashing sperm on the body, into the face or in the mouth, or in the little girl vagina, is something so disgusting and perverse that the trauma will probably be extremely intense. Its odor, especially its consistency resembling the secretions of the nose, and its unpleasant stickyness, are painfully pressed in the child's memory. Even the most courageous and tough children who bravely start felation (for example, those who are involved in it from birth) are mostly repelled and their faces show resentment and extreme disgust when they get a dose into their mouths (see the findings of court experts after seeing some CP documents). In fact, few women accept this as delicious "vitamins".
Many degenerated deviates are happy with a variety of disgusting actions. However, even with the utmost cultivation and preservation of decency and purity, childhood and adult physicality are quite different, and in the intimate contact of these two children is the one who loses or suffers from the difference
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H. Whole society climate
The ultimate factor here, which significantly affects the traumatization of a child, is the overall climate in the society - the surrounding people with their attitudes to sexual abuse of children and related topics, with their morality and standards
. The way of seeing of the world by society in which pedosexual activities take place significantly influences the formation of the intimate relationship between the pedosexual and the child. The society view fundamentally determines the degree of secondary traumatization of the child (type 6-8) in case of revelation of the relationship. What is somewhere regarded as a norm and natural behaviour, is elsewhere severely condemned and punished. We can see the relativeness of everything, but we must respect local tradition and morality. We can express this social problem elsewhere and later. And in other topics. I find a high competence in this issue especially in our member Dejan.
odkaz a zdroj: www.shutterstock.comFollowing the chapter mapping 8 types of traumatisation, we now finish the chapters devoted to 8 factors that significantly influence the degree of trauma. I open a free discussion on the issue.